Parting with the loved ones is never easy especially when loneliness strikes and the only thing that is left is the memories.
That was what happened to 77-year-old Crisanto “Mang Cris” Dela Cruz when he felt terribly lonely after his wife, Pepita “Aling Pitang” Dela Cruz passed away in April 2013.
In the Facebook post that his daughter, Mayette Dela Cruz-Cinco posted on Tuesday, January 29, Mayette wrote how her father whom she introduced as Mang Cris, missed her late mother so much
3 missed calls and 1 answered call. In a middle of a meeting I had to excuse myself to take the 4th call. "Marita,…
On that day, Mayette was in the middle of a meeting when she realised that she had three missed calls from her father. Mayette later answered the fourth call to which her father told her that he needed to visit her late mother.
“Marita, mangyari [ay] dinadalaw ako ng lungkot. Tinatawag ako ng nanay mo. Samahan mo naman ako ngayon sa Loyola.”
(Marita, I feel sad. Your mom was calling me. Please go with me today in Loyola.)” Mang Cris pleaded
Mayette knew very well that how important it was for her father to visit the cemetery so later that day, she brought her father to the cemetery.
“For sure, lagot ako (I’m screwed) if I don’t show up today. It’s either he won’t eat, won’t talk to me, or both,” Mayette wrote.
When the two arrived at the cemetery, Mang Cris became panicked when he saw litter strewn across his late wife’s tomb
“He was in tears [and] I could only comfort him as I clean around,” Mayette added.
“Sabi ko sa iyo, Marita, tinatawag ako ng nanay mo. Ayaw mo lang maniwala,” her father said. (I told you, Marita. Your mom was calling me. You just did not believe.)
He kept saying that this was the reason that he felt like he needed to visit his late wife’s tomb. Without wasting any seconds, Mang Cris quickly cleaned up the tomb’s area.
“He came prepared. He has a plastic bag with water to clean the grave, red candles with cover, and an igniter. Nobody dare touch the ‘Aling Pitang visit care bag.’ We bought flowers at the entrance gate,” Mayette wrote
She even heard her father muttered as if he was talking to her mother while he was cleaning.
“Nandito na kami. Nilinis ko na. ‘Wag ka nang mag-alala at hindi ko hahayaang hindi ka mapuntahan kapag nararamdaman kong kailangan mo ako.” (We are already here. I have already cleaned it. Don’t worry, I will see to it that you will be visited whenever I feel that you need me.)
After cleaning the gravestone, her father thanked her for joining him to visit the cemetery
“Salamat, Marita ha? Mangyari, nawala ang lungkot ko. Pasensya ka na kung naabala kita ha? Nagalit ba ang kliyente mo? Sabihin mo sa kanya, maraming salamat. Pagdating ng araw hindi na kita iistorbohin, Marita, nandito na rin ako. Linisin mo kapag hindi ka abala. Laanan mo ng panahon,” he said.
(Thank you, Marita. My sadness is gone. I’m sorry if I disturbed you. Did your client get mad? Tell your client, thank you so much.
The day will come when I won’t be bothering you anymore, Marita, I will be here, too. Clean [my grave] when you are not busy. Find time to do so.)
Mayette then hugged her father and said that he was never a burden to her. “Gave my father a hug and in my heart I whispered, “Kailanman ay hindi ka istorbo, Tay. Hindi abala. Hindi singit. Hindi extra. Ikaw po ay mahalaga. Isa ka sa pinakamahalaga,” she wrote.
According to Mayette in an interview with INQUIRER.net, her parents got married in 1966. Unfortunately, her mother passed away in 2013 due to abdominal aneurysm.
Since then, her father has been living alone in San Juan since he does not want to abandon the house where they created memories together.
Even though Mayette often visits him, Mang Cris still feels lonely as his wife is no longer alive
When loneliness strikes, Mang Cris will go visit his late wife at the cemetery and Mayette noticed how he always appears excited and energized after every visit.
Nevertheless, Mayette also wanted Mang Cris to know that he still has her and his grandchildren and they will always be there for him.
“I always tell him that no matter what, we will always be here for him. And that we love him so dearly because he’s the only parent we have now,” Mayette said.
“I always tell him not to give up in life and not to lose hope. To live purposefully and don’t get excited about being with our [mother] yet because we still want to enjoy [life] with him.”
She also has a reminder to tell. “Someday, we’ll be [in] our parents’ shoes. Someday we’ll grow old. [While] we are still strong, let us show our love and care [for] our parents, while we still can.”
“While they are still there,” she said.