“The Pan Mee Noodle You Cook Is Very Tasty” These Simple Words From A Daughter Saved A Mother From Committing Suicide After The Husband Had An Affair And Asked For Divorce


A housewife left devastated and became suicidal after her husband had an affair and wanted to leave, but luckily her daughter saved her in time. “The Pan Mee Noodle you cook is very tasty”, these simple words from her daughter cheered her up. She decided to pull herself together, later opened a noodle stall, and successfully walked away from her depression.

According to the Singaporean Shin Min Daily News, the 42-year-old Madame Leong opened a Pan Mee noodle stall in Holland Close Block 31 Food Court in October 2015. The business has been doing well, but there was a tragic past behind it.

Madame Leong

Madame Leong told reporter that she moved to Singapore from Kuala Lumpur in 2003 after she married her husband, but the marriage was in danger five years ago when her husband had an affair while on business trips abroad, and he later asked her for a divorce.

Wikipedia: Pan mee (Chinese: 板麺, pronounced as ban mian) is a Hakka-style noodle, originating from Malaysia. Its Chinese name literally translates to “flat flour noodle”. It is part of Malaysian Chinese cuisine and popular in Singapore too.
The dough is made from flour (sometimes egg is added for more flavor). Traditionally, the dough is hand-kneaded and torn into smaller pieces of dough (about 2 inches). Nowadays, the dough can be kneaded using machine into a variety of shapes, the most common shape being flat strips of noodle.

“I believe I am a good mother and a good wife. I have no other family here, so when he asked me for a divorce, I completely broke down. I felt despair and did not know what to do, so suicidal thoughts grew.”

She recalled that she took the divorce very hard at that time, and once she even stood on a chair and was about to jump off from a building, but her daughter stopped her in time. Her daughter was on her knees and in tears, begged her not to do such foolish things, and at the end managed to talk her out of her suicidal thoughts.

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She said even though her daughter felt sad that her father left home, she still kept cheering her up, praised that the Pan Mee noodles she cooked were very tasty, and encouraged her to start selling them.

“These simple words of her woke me up, so I decided to turn my specialty Pan Mee noodles into my means of livelihood and raise my daughter on my own.”

She said cooking Pan Mee noodles is her hobby. Her freshly made noodles and sauce are made according to her mother’s recipes, and the soup base is made from yellow soy beans and anchovies cooked for about two hours.

In addition to noodles, her stall also offers braised pork rice, Thai curry, vinegar pork in clay-pot and Tom Yum soup, and sells hundreds of bowls daily.

As her business grew, she expanded the stall size in March and extended the operating hour, where the closing time was extended from 4pm to 8pm.

“My life is like riding a roller-coaster with ups and downs, but I am determined to be a good role model for my daughter and stay strong.”

Madame Leong and her daughter

Initially Madame Leong had no money to open a stall, so she made Pan Mee noodles at home and sold them door to door.

She recalled that she used a glass bottle to work the dough and a kitchen knife to cut them into noodles at home. The whole process was time-consuming but to earn her living she had no complaints.

At that time, she also worked in a food stall and a cake shop to gain experience.

Being betrayed is a devastating feeling. (for illustration purpose only)

She said her ex-husband pays a monthly alimony of 3,000 SGD, but after rent and other living expenses there is little left. Since it cost at least 5,000 SGD to open a stall, she worked hard to save money to realise her dream.

Madame Leong is planning to crowdfund for a shop and hopes to lend a helping hand to other single mothers.

Madame Leong said because of her own experience she now understands the difficulties of being a single mother, thus she hopes to open a shop and let single mothers or low-income earners operate their own stalls so that they can improve their living conditions.

“Right now, I do not have enough capital, so I plan to set up a crowdfunding campaign online to raise at least 60,000 SGD”

Madame Leong and her daughter

Madame Leong said her 12-year-old daughter always helps her at the stall after school, and even though she has to sit for the primary school leaving exam this year, she continues doing the same. The daughter helps out at the stall after school every day and tries to study whenever she can find some time.

“I am gratified for the filial piety of my daughter and she is my motivation to keep moving forward”.



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