Thinking of getting married soon? It is always exciting to plan a dream wedding with the love of your life but before you get carried away with the wedding planning, this is what you should do with your partner.
There are a few topics that you and your partner should discuss to see where you and your partner stand on these issues.
Remember, when people say “happily ever after”, they meant the long-lasting, successful marriage with effective communication between you and your partner, not the wedding.
So, if both of you are on the same page on these major life choices, nothing can stop you two from being a happily married couple!
Disagreement about money is not uncommon in many relationships. If the two of you have the same approach in understanding and managing money, then it is a good start. However, if both of you have a different style in managing money, it is definitely something to talk about.
What are your financial expectations? Do the two of you want to split 50/50 for every household expense or you prefer to pay for your own commitments? What happens if one of you does not have an income for a long period of time?
2. Career plans
Do you have plans to advance your career? Is there a job that you have been dreaming about and is currently putting it on hold for any reasons? Is your partner willing to relocate if you have to move to a new place or vice versa?
Having your partner get on the same page as you when it comes to career does not only provide support for you but also to avoid disappointment and surprises along the way.
3. Family goals
This is certainly a topic that you and your partner should discuss with each other. Apart from the number of children that you wish to have in the future, do the two of you understand and are fully committed to raising children? What is your partner’s stand when it comes to parenting?
It may seem trivial at the moment but this discussion will help you two to avoid conflicts or misunderstanding in the future when your children are involved.
4. Living situation
Are you two going to rent or buy your own house? Or are you going to move in with his family or vice versa? If one of you have to move in with the in-laws, will you be comfortable with it?
5. Conflict management
Knowing how each other handles conflict and how to work out in any situations can help you avoid any unmet expectations. It will also allow you to think of the best way to overcome the situation and this may provide great help in saving your marriage in the future.
These are just some of the topics that you should definitely discuss with your partner before you continue to plan your dream wedding. Obviously, there are more topics that you can talk about. Choose whichever issues that are important to address.
Never rush when it comes to agreeing or disagreeing with your partner as they may have their own reasons. Always communicate and listen to your partner as it is one of the keys to a successful marriage.